Rules for all ages to help choose a personal success coach

In this newsletter that is highly recommended for people looking for a personal success coach, Dan Pena breaks away from convention and publishes a list of things to remember which can be used on a daily basis.

Also included is another list that has been published earlier which is done by Bill Gates. It is from a high school grad speech – a must-read for anybody over 30 and lived a sheltered life.

Dan says that a personal success coach is one who after attaining success does not get heady about it. Facts are, if individuals who think the world revolves around them disappeared from the earth, the world would still be spinning.

In the things to remember list there are some very encouraging thoughts that talk of happiness, bettering one’s self-esteem, success, life’s best moments, deadlines, opportunities and time. Each of these statements in this newsletter forms the essentials to make an enterprising personal success coach.

While Bill Gates rules are in the face, there are no mincing words on deciding who makes a personal success coach. As a signing off note, Dan Pena sets a reminder no matter where one is in life – it is someone else’s dream!

 

29-May-2003

From Dan Peña – Executive Coach and Mentor to the High Performer.

Dear Friend and Subscriber,

I don’t normally forward verbatim things I receive from my various sources. This letter is an exception to that norm. "The Things To Remember" is priceless. Many of the things listed you have heard before, but perhaps not all together. Carry them with you and read them often. Give them to your kids. Pass them on to people you deal with on a day to day basis.

The second list is one I have used before. It is credited to Bill Gates. It is from a high school grad speech made by him. We all have or know children graduating form school now. It is amusing to read if you are over 30 and lived even a sheltered life. If you have lived a tough life as many of us have, it is funny enough to make you get cramps from laughter! I have sent it to my three children. Two are in college and one is in high school. Thus far only my 16 year old has responded, saying it sounds like stuff I have told them.

We all, especially, if we have attained any success, take our selves too seriously! Of course if you have achieved no success you don’t take yourself serious at all. In fact you probably don’t rate yourself at all – and you should rate yourself! That’s how self esteem is built, one step at a time! We all know individuals that think the world (or their biz, or their department) revolves around themselves. Guess what! If they disappeared from the earth, the world would still be spinning.

Mr Gratsos, my mentor at Onassis Shipping 20 years ago once told me how important anyone is in the cosmos of time! Put your hand in a pail of water. Pull it out. What happens? How long does it take to fill the void? How long does the water ripple? I think you get the picture!

Stay focused, but remember the above. Have some fun! I am blessed, because I truly love what I do! I have for 33 years. But it doesn’t mean you will be doing the same thing all your life! I have had four stages so far in my business life cycle. If you don’t love what you do, think hard about what you are doing! If you don’t love what you do, it will only get tougher as you get older, and the older you get the harder to change. As I have said many times, find something you are passionate about and wrap a career around it-now!

* THINGS TO REMEMBER *

1. No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission.

2. Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be.

3. Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.

4. Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.

5. Success stops when you do.

6. When your ship comes in… make sure you are willing to unload it.

7. You will never "have it all together."

8. Life is a journey…not a destination. Enjoy the trip!

9. The biggest lie on the planet: "When I get what I want, I will be happy."

10. The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.

11. I’ve learned that ultimately, ‘takers’ lose and ‘givers’ win.

12. Life’s precious moments don’t have value, unless they are shared.

13. If you don’t start, it’s certain you won’t arrive.

14. We often fear the thing we want the most.

15. He or she who laughs……lasts.

16. Yesterday was the deadline for all complaints.

17. Look for opportunities…not guarantees.

18. Life is what’s coming….not what was.

19. Success is getting up one more time.

20. Now is the most interesting time of all.

21. When things go wrong…..don’t go with them.

Summer is upon us. Stay focused, but have some fun! Live each day, as it was your last, because it could be!

”Bill Gate’s Rules”

Rule 1: Life is not fair — get used to it

Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to
accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make 40 thousand dollars a year right
You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone, until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you
have tenure.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your
had a different word for burger flipping — they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents’ fault, so
mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring
They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and
listening to you talk about how cool you are. So before you save the
rain forest from the parasites of your parents’ generation, try delousing
the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers,
In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you
as many times as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the
slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get
few employers are interested in helping you find yourself. Do that on
your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people
the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one.

And remember no matter where you are in life – your life is someone else’s dream!

To Your Quantum Leap
Daniel S. Peña, Sr

P.S. No I haven’t gone nuts! I am spending more time at Guthrie and doing things I wouldn’t have done earlier in my life! Remember real change is rare! And belief system change is even more rare!

P.P.S. I hope you are testing yourself everyday. Are you passing? Would you hire yourself? Would you fire yourself? Would you come to work for yourself? Would you go to work ’t have to? Answer truthfully.